Tyler Tell Me Why: Unpacking Transgender Attraction

As I always say, 'I'm happy to answer questions about my community' as best I can. When it comes to transgender attraction, many people struggle to understand what makes someone gay or straight. The key is not to confuse sexual orientation with gender identity.

Let's start with the basics: a trans man (born female, identifying as male) who is exclusively attracted to other men is still considered gay. It's important to remember that genitalia has no direct bearing on sexuality. Similarly, a trans woman (born male, identifying as female) who is exclusively attracted to other women is a lesbian.

Now, when it comes to Tyler and his possible attraction to Mike, we have to consider that he's not even sure yet how he feels or what he wants in a partner. It's also important to remember that sexual orientation can be complex and fluid, especially for those who are still discovering their identity.

Some people might argue that if Tyler is attracted to women, then he would be considered straight. However, it's essential to understand that attraction is not solely determined by genitalia or physical appearance. A trans man or trans woman may still identify as gay or lesbian despite being attracted to someone of a different gender than their own.

The concept of cisgendered (identifying with the sex assigned at birth) and non-cisgendered (identifying differently from the sex assigned at birth) attraction can be confusing, but it's crucial to acknowledge that sexual orientation is not solely tied to gender identity.

In the case of Tyler, he might not even know how he would approach a potential partner yet. Mike, on the other hand, seems confident in his own sexual orientation and could potentially be interested in pursuing something with Tyler.

Ultimately, understanding transgender attraction requires empathy, education, and an open mind. It's essential to recognize that everyone's journey is unique, and we should strive to create a safe and accepting environment for all individuals, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation.

Tyler tell me why